Control Freaks|控制狂，你要怎样？

by Owain Mckimm

Are you a control freak?

Other people can never get anything right, can they? If you want something done, it's definitely better to do it yourself. Also, your friends' lives would all be much better if they just listened to your opinions, and yours alone, wouldn't they? If someone makes a mistake, then you're going to lose your temper immediately and make them feel stupid. That's normal, right?

_(1)_ Control freaks don't trust anyone to do anything without their direct supervision or advice. In relationships, they often exhibit exaggerated jealousy, show extreme obsessive behavior, and need to control exactly what their partners do and who they socialize with. _(2)_ In short, they can be nightmares to cope with both in love and at work.

When dealing with control freaks, remember that their behavior is not a result of a personal dislike of you. _(3)_ Often, control freaks are terrified of failure or paranoid about losing something precious to them. The only way they can handle this fear or paranoia is to take control of the situation directly. _(4)_

Reassurance is often effective when coping with a control freak. _(5)_ Be patient and don't start a confrontation since there is very little chance of being in the right.

(A) As bosses, they are impatient and insulting and assume a dictatorial role in the workplace.

(B) Make it clear that you're a dedicated worker or a faithful partner and that your interests are similar rather than different.

(C) They think if they are in control, then nothing can go wrong in their lives.

(D) If you find yourself nodding yes to any of these, you may be a control freak, someone who needs to dominate situations constantly.

(E) Instead, it's actually the result of a deep-seated insecurity complex on their part.

控制狂，你要怎样？

你是个控制狂吗？

别人绝对无法把事情做好，对吧？若想完成 1 件事情，自己亲自出马绝对是更好的选择。此外，如果你的朋友不听他人的意见，只听你的，他们的人生就会更美好，对吧？要是有人犯错，你会立刻抓狂，让他们觉得自己像个笨蛋。这种情况时常发生，是吗？

如果你发现自己对上述任何一项点头称是，那你就有可能是控制狂，也就是必须时时掌控全局的一种人。控制狂若没有直接主导或给予建议，就不放心任何人做的任何事。谈感情时，他们常流露夸张的忌妒、出现极端强迫性的的行为，以及必须控制另一半的行为及往来的对象。控制狂型的老板既没耐心又爱侮辱人，并且在工作场所中位居独揽大权的地位。总之，在感情和职场上，应付控制狂很可能是个梦魇。

应付控制狂的时候，切记他们出现这些行为不是因为讨厌你，而是因为他们由来已久的不安全感。控制狂通常害怕失败或因为害怕失去珍贵的东西而疑神疑鬼。他们能应付这种恐惧或多疑的唯一方法，就是直接掌控局面。他们认为要是自己能掌控一切，人生就会一帆风顺。

应付控制狂时，提供令人安心的保证经常可以奏效。清楚表明你是个有奉献精神的员工或是忠贞的伴侣，以及你们的利益相同而非背道而驰。耐心以对，不要发生冲突，因为你根本不太可能让控制狂认同你是对的。

答案：  1. (D)2. (A)3. (E)4. (C)5. (B)

根据美国全国广播公司于 2011 年 12 月 12 日的报导，英国自由民主党议员提出新议案，要求打击『家庭精神暴力』，那些对妻子控制欲太强的丈夫即使没有殴打妻子，也要受到犯罪指控。

这份议案中提出，那些『欺压』妻子或对妻子进行精神虐待的丈夫，也应受到家庭暴力罪起诉，家暴法律将覆盖任何『强制控制』伴侣的行为，因此那些欺压丈夫的妻子也同样会受到起诉。