Do Nice Guys Always Finish Last?|坏坏惹人爱，好男人总吃鳖？

by Marcus Maurice

Why are some women attracted to jerks?

In 1939, baseball manager Leo Durocher came up with a saying for the ages. He was referring to the _(1)_ baseball team when he said, "Look at them. They're all nice guys, but they'll finish last." Durocher wasn't speaking of the male-female relationship at the time, but his expression is now _(2)_ with it. Almost everyone knows certain women who _(3)_ about being single all the time. They say that they desire gentlemen that are kind, smart, and sensitive and will treat them right. In reality, all the men that they date are self-centered guys with bad intentions. Is it true that men with nice guy personalities are actually less _(4)_ to women?

For most of their lives, women have been taught to _(5)_ with caring men who would make ideal husbands. The harsh reality is that some women look for macho men who are emotionally unavailable because they see the possibility of an exciting fling. Even worse, they view it as a challenge to _(6)_ these bad boys into husband material.

Nice guys shouldn't feel _(7)_, though. The adrenaline rush eventually wears off, and women really want to be with good men. While nice guys may not be competitive in the number of relationships they have over the years, they do have a huge _(8)_ when it comes to finding partners for child rearing. If you are a nice guy who is thinking about _(9)_ some personality changes to be more take-charge, don't. Keep opening doors for women. Keep listening to their relationship problems. Keep being a _(10)_ to cry on. Don't worry. In the end, nice guys do come in first.

(A) undergoing  (B) depressed   (C) shoulder    (D) desirable   (E) synonymous

(F) settle down (G) advantage   (H) opposing    (I) transform   (J) complain

为什么有些女性总是喜欢坏男人？

棒球队经理李奥‧杜罗切于 1939 年说了 1 句流传至今的名言：『瞧瞧这些人。他们全是好人，不过成绩却会垫底。』他口中的这些人，指的是敌队的球员。杜罗切当时谈的并非风花雪月之事，如今他的名言却成为男女关系的同义词。几乎每个人都认识一些不断抱怨自己仍小姑独处的女性。这些人说她们渴望善良、聪明、善解人意，以及真心对待自己的绅士。但事实上，她们约会的对象都是自私自利、心怀不轨的男人。具备好男人特质的男性果真对女性来说较没有魅力吗？

女性一生多半被灌输要跟关心自己的好丈夫型男人安定下来。但现实很残酷，有些女性挑的是不愿付出感情的猛男，她们只想找机会风流快活。更糟的是，她们把这种坏男人视为 1 种挑战，试图把他们改造成丈夫的料。

不过，好男人别沮丧。激情终会消退，女性会想跟好男人长相厮守。虽然好男人在过去几年的感情路上也许不受青睐，但谈到寻找养育孩子的另一半时，他们的确有很大的优势。如果你是好男人，现在正考虑改变个性让自己变成能控制场面的 hold 住哥，其实用不着如此。继续对女性敞开心房、聆听她们的感情问题，并成为她们可以诉苦的对象。请放心，好男人终能拔得头筹。

答案：  1. (H)  2. (E)  3. (J)  4. (D)  5. (F)  

6. (I)  7. (B)  8. (G)  9. (A)  10. (C)

台湾的好人卡文化

1990年代以后在台湾也发展出自己的好人文化。好人文化起源于女性常以『你真是个好人，我相信你可以找到比我更好的女孩子』、『虽然你人真的很好，但是我们……』这样的借口拒绝男性的追求，因此衍生出『好人』的说法，意指『对一个女性付出心力但被拒绝的男性』，带有少许反讽意味。

台湾好人文化中的特殊用语

好人：指付出很多但却被对方拒绝交往的人。

好人卡：获得好人卡，即被人拒绝而成为『好人』。

发卡：用委婉的方式拒绝对自己很好的追求者。

（数据源：维基百科）