The Pampered Child Syndrome|被溺爱儿童症候群

by Rebecca A. Fratzke

Although parents mean well, they are actually doing harm by spoiling their children.

Dr. Maggie Mamen has been working with children and families as a clinical psychologist for over 30 years. She has seen just about everything families have had to deal with, but one situation has her and many others deeply concerned. It is called the pampered child syndrome, a name that Dr. Mamen came up with to _(1)_ the effects of parents giving their children everything they want.

The concern behind this syndrome is that it can create a _(2)_ reaction in the child, causing emotional, behavioral, or psychiatric disorders. It affects everything from daily life to performance at school to _(3)_ interaction. Such problems can stay with a child well beyond their younger years. This can create adults who are not _(4)_ prepared for the real world. Someone with the pampered child syndrome is given everything he or she wants but still _(5)_ more. They believe they deserve the same rights as adults. However, they are not quite ready to undertake the _(6)_ that go with being grownups. They are well taken care of and loved, yet feel unhappy, anxious, or angry.

Teachers, professionals, and parents are now working together to educate themselves and others on how to _(7)_ , reverse, and deal with the pampered child syndrome. The mistake parents are making is that they try to protect their children from consequences, which _(8)_ them of having to deal with disappointment and loss. For those fighting the syndrome, this does not mean they should pay less _(9)_  to their children. What children actually need is support to help them grow and develop. Perhaps, _(10)_ , parents need to be the examples they want their children to follow. While it is difficult not to give a child everything he or she wants, it is much better not to spoil them in the long run.

被溺爱儿童症候群

父母的出发点虽好，宠溺的结果却会给子女带来伤害。

　　临床心理学家玛吉‧玛曼从事儿童与家庭研究已逾 30 年。她看遍许多家庭所要处理的事情，其中一个让她和其他人极为关切的状况就是『被溺爱儿童症候群』。玛吉．玛曼提出这个名称来描述父母让子女予取予求所带来的影响。

　　这个症候群让人关切的是它会引起儿童负面的反应，像是情绪上、行为上或是精神上的失调。『被溺爱儿童症候群』影响到各个层面，包含从日常生活到学校表现和社会交际等。这个问题会一直伴随他们到过了年轻岁月之后。这样塑造出的成人尚未完全准备好面对真实世界。有『被溺爱儿童症候群』的人被给予他们想要的所有东西，但仍需索无度。他们相信自己应和成人享有同等的权利。但是，他们却还没准备好承担成年人该肩负的责任。他们备受呵护与关爱，却仍然感到不快乐、焦虑或愤怒。

　　老师、专业人士以及家长现在正同心协力教育自己和他人如何预防、扭转及处理『被溺爱儿童症候群』。父母亲所犯的错误是，他们试图保护孩子免于承担后果，这样便剥夺了孩子必须处理失望和失落的的情况。对那些对抗此症候群的人来说，这不代表他们要少关心自己的小孩。儿童真正需要的是能帮助他们成长和发展的支持。或许更重要的是，父母亲本身必须成为孩子们效法的榜样。尽管不给予子女想要的东西是一件困难的事，但总比到最后宠坏他们来得好。

答案：  1. (C)  2. (J)  3. (E)  4. (A)  5. (K)  

6. (L)  7. (B)  8. (I)  9. (F)  10. (H)

在上海的地铁车站里，有很多『地铁父母』。上海的地铁有 3 层，最底层是搭车处。有一天，一位爸爸在车站外买早点，他拿着手机，气急败坏对着另一头的太太说：『叫妳先去排队买票啊！上什么厕所？万一儿子来不及怎么办？』说着边掏钱、边骂、边挥手叫儿子先去月台等。

原来，上海父母为了让宝贝儿女省时间，夫妻两人分工合作，一人买早点，一人买票，好让孩子不用浪费时间，多个 10 分钟看书。