How to Say No|如何说不

提 示：

　　在日常生活中，我们有时会面临一些相当为难的处境，想拒绝对方，却又不知如何开口表达，才不至于冒犯他人。请写一篇约 120至 150 个单词（words）的英文作文，文分两段，第一段以 Sometimes people find it difficult to refuse others. 开头，说明拒绝别人的困难之处；第二段则以 It is necessary to be able to say no. 开头，说明自己常用什么方式拒绝别人。

破　题

第一段：说明拒绝别人的困难之处，例如：因为是好朋友所以不好意思拒绝、找不到适当的理由拒绝别人、担心拒绝他人未来可能会得不到他们的帮助，抑或是个性使然，不喜欢拒绝别人等。

第二段：说明自己常用什么方式拒绝别人，例如：直接拒绝对方、编个正当的理由让对方知难而退、婉拒对方并提出弥补的方法，抑或是透过朋友间接向对方表明婉拒之意等。

动动脑（Brainstorming）

利用 3 W (when, why, what) + 1 H (how)

第一段  a. When do people tend to say no?

b. Why is it difficult to say no?

c. How do people usually feel when saying no?

第二段  a. What kind of approach do you take to express refusal?

b. Why do you say no in this way?

结论句  How do you feel about saying no?

布　局

第一段：引言 →   1 句：Sometimes people find it difficult to refuse others.

举例 → 2-3 句：描述何种情况下会想拒绝别人。

说明 → 2-3 句：说明拒绝别人很困难的原因。

结论 →   1 句：必须拒绝别人时的感受。

第二段：引言 →   1 句：It is necessary to be able to say no.

说明 → 3-5 句：列出自己拒绝别人的常用方式，并各以 1-2 句的说明支持主题句。

结论 →   1 句：拒绝别人对自己困不困难。

大　纲

第一段引导句：Sometimes people find it difficult to refuse others.

a.  You have to study, but your friends ask you out to a KTV.

b.  You are busy, but your friends ask you to help them.

c.  It's not easy to reject friends' invitations or demands because you don't want to disappoint them.

第二段引导句：It is necessary to be able to say no.

a.  I often express my refusal and reasons directly.

b.  I also give friends an alternative to compensate for my refusal.

c.  I decline politely but firmly.

第二段结论句：Saying no to others is not a problem for me.

范 文：

Sometimes people find it difficult to refuse others. For example, your friends invite you out to a KTV even though you have to study. Another example is a friend asking for a favor when you are busy. You really want to say no, but that word just doesn't come out. It's easy to feel guilty about disappointing friends, especially those that have been there for you before.

It is necessary to be able to say no. To decline an invitation, I often reveal my reasons honestly, especially when it's a complete refusal. Being good friends, they will understand. What's more, I will offer an alternative to show my good will. For instance, if I turn down going to a KTV, I will suggest catching a movie at another time. Most importantly, I will decline politely but firmly. Therefore, saying no is really no sweat for me.

　　有时候，人们发现要拒绝别人是件困难的事。举例来说，纵使你必须念书，但你的朋友却邀请你去 KTV 唱歌。另 1 个例子则是朋友在你正忙的时候请求帮助。你很想说不，但那个字就是说不出口。让朋友失望容易使人感到愧疚，尤其是那些陪伴在你身边的朋友。

　　学会说不还是必要的。婉拒邀请时，我常诚实地表明原因，特别是那种没有转寰余地的拒绝。身为好友，他们会明白我的处境。此外，我会提供 1 个替代方案来表达我的善意。比方说，假如我拒绝去唱 KTV，便会建议改天去看电影。最重要的是，我会有礼貌但坚定地婉拒。因此，说不对我而言一点也不难。